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This week’s topic is on pain, personal pain, to be precise. The pain we feel is subjective, meaning that it is through our own, very personal lens that we filter all our experiences, good, bad or ugly. Nobody can possibly understand our pain, even if they have traveled in our shoes, as the expression goes. Two people can experience exactly the same event and when they recount the event, onlookers cannot often be certain that the lived event was actually the same. We filter events in our lives entirely differently as no two people are the same, not even biological twins. Therefore, how can we judge another?

Our Lord Jesus Christ experienced trauma at the hands of those who believed that they were right in ridding society of a Jacobite, someone who had no place among them. They felt justified in so doing. They had no idea that crucifying him would lead to creating in him, a martyr, and that this very act would immortalize him and all his good deeds for the rest of time immemorial. The physical pain that he suffered at the hands of his perpetrators was transformative, in that he was able to reformat this experience in his mind as an act that required forgiveness, not as an act of condemnation. He had a choice to condemn or forgive! Let’s follow the two possible responses.

By far the easiest and least complicated response is vengeance. It is the brief, often violent response that we feel will give us the most satisfaction, that will make the pain disappear and will balance the scales of justice, that is chosen out of reaction. At times, the mammalian brain, the amygdala to be precise, responds to the threat, real or perceived, before our frontal cortex, the evolved part of our brain, has a chance to think out a more just response, tempered with reason, and we react without thinking, literally. This is the sad reason that many end up either dead, or prosecuted by the justice system for second degree murder, a crime that was not premeditated.

Take the young man, whose girlfriend has an indiscretion with another man and she is caught, red-handed, as it were. The mammalian response is immediately to kill or be killed, to preserve what is perceived as yours and to obliterate the seed of the perpetrator. At times like these, no clever, witty sayings like Alfred Lord Tennyson’s, it is far better to have loved and lost than never to have loved, rarely crosses one’s mind. Once we have a chance to think about the situation, it is then that the rational mind often prevails, as we realize that no other person is worth the pain and suffering achieved using violence as a primary response to threat or danger. Once we are able to reflect on the situation rationally, it is possible to divine a much more cerebral response to minimize the damage caused by the lustful partner. Healing can begin and forgiveness is then possible whether or not the choice is to remain in the relationship.

The response of forgiveness is the response of reason and kindness, not only toward self but also toward the other person(s) involved. It is the knowledge that we are all fallible, reactive human beings. The response of forgiveness is contrary, not only to the mammalian response of vengeance, but also to the response of condemnation seen in those with an overly developed sense of moral imperative. By this we mean those who feel superior to those involved in a crime, either through a sense of righteousness, as in the hecklers and onlookers to the crime, or those who are appointed judge and jury to assess guilt or innocence in a courtroom. A feeling of superiority is often present in either of these two cases, when the fact remains that we are all human and have no right to feel morally superior to others for any reason. Many will well argue our perspective, as we expect, however, ours is far from a “human” point of view. We are the ultimate justice that exists beyond your realm. Indeed it is this system of “justice” that so many on the earth plane disregard when in physical form.

We do not wish to enter into a theological discussion, as this topic is indeed a hotbed rife for argument and ‘moral imperative.’ We merely wish to point out two possible responses to perceived injustice; vengeance and forgiveness and the potential ramifications of each. We wish to say, that forgiveness is not an easy, simple response. It requires a desire for peace, a calm, rational mind, and a willingness to relinquish hatred, first for the sake of the one who feels harmed by another’s actions and then for the one who committed the harm. Forgiveness of another does not mean allowing the person to harm us again, or giving them another chance to do so, it means letting go of the pain caused and getting on with the business of living life to its fullest potential so that the memory of the incident does not consume or cause further harm or bitterness in one’s heart. We are not suggesting that forgiveness is easy, certainly not, but it is the highest choice and the choice that allows healing and a chance at a bright future, regardless of the crime committed.

Jesus’ choice to accept persecution and the horrendous act of being nailed to a cross required an act of forgiveness. It is this very act of forgiveness that has immortalized him as the figure head of Christianity for the last 2000 years. Forgiveness is the light saber that can conquer the dark force of hatred. Wield it with kindness. Wield it with love. Wield it with wisdom. If you wish to conquer your own darkness within, kindly get in touch with Suzanne and we will be happy to further enlighten. With this, we end this discussion.

All That Is and Suzanne Irwin